How your wishes come true.

In a yoga class, I heard the following sentences: "Wishing or asking for something actually disconnects you more from becoming or having it, than not wishing or asking for it. The reason is, that when we wish or ask for something, we set the intention that we don't have it already."

This thought really sticks in my mind and since then, I have thought about it and I came to the following conclusion:

If you are realized, pray to get, what you need and not what you want. Because eventually it will come to you. What really helped me was getting conscious about my wishes. 

What you aim for, is not only what you direct your energy and motivation on, but also what lifts you up. Be very mindful. Be positive, and don't beg. Rather concentrate on being rightful. 

Remove the negatives. One person told me once: The universe does not understand 'No' or 'not'. Frame your sentence differently and avoid these words. For instance, you might wish for good health instead of getting sick.

Be specific. Wish for whatever you wish for, but when imagining your dream life, be as specific as possible. By doing that, you will automatically manifest it. Feel how you would feel if your wish would become true right now. 

Evil karma strikes back. Don't wish ill for anyone because it will hit you first. 

The next step is easy. Disconnect from your wish, once you have spoken or thought it. The reason is simple: The more we think about the wish, the more we fear that it might not come true. And again, the energy that is directed to the wish becomes rather negative than positive. By disconnecting from our wishes, we keep it neutral. 

Coming back to the very first idea, remember that whatever you want or need in your life is already yours. We just need to connect with it. For example, if you are looking for a good partner, treat yourself the way you want to be treated by him or her, and set the intention that whoever is connected on a deep level will come into your life. You are not waiting for an angel to fall down from heaven. This person already exists.  And he or she will come into your life. 

Establish the emotional basis and the feelings that you would have if your wish would come true right now, even if it seems to be far away. Right now is the time to set a positive intention.

Valentines Day?

We are now at that time of the year again when people go crazy in proclaiming their love for their loved ones on Valentine’s Day. But putting aside all the commercial hype, just what is really going on here?

If you are in a relationship, is it what you always dreamed about? And why should you only celebrate and demonstrate your love on just one day of the year?

The problem is, that after a while, you take each other for granted. It doesn't mean that your love for your partner is fading, it simply means, that there is a lack of effort that can have consequences.

And - it doesn't mean that your partner has to fulfill all of your needs and the other way round; be realistic - no one will ever be able to do that. 

A day like valentines day is a reminder of how important it is to show each other how precious the time is, you spent together. It gives us a chance to be proactive and show gratitude, and of course this can be any day, not only a random day in february. 

Here are some short and simple ways to do so. In my opinion they are very important.

1. Accept your partner just as they are.

He or she is a special being, with their own wonderful traits and unique gifts. Learn to appreciate the full package. Whatever they do, think, say or make, it ultimately makes them who they are. They are entitled to their own decisions.

2. Always be in integrity.
Tell your partner the truth, unconditionally, because honesty is the key of a good conversation. Trust can build a zone of safety and comfort with each other.

3. Get clear on what you want from the relationship.
Make the fulfillment of your short term and long term needs the criteria for choosing a partner and being in a relationship. Create and share a vision of your dream life together.

4. Resolve your differences as soon as they happen.
Conflict gets difficult when it doesn't get solved right away. The sooner you stop blaming and start talking, the better you feel. Never go sleep with an unresolved issue.

5. Let go of the past.
All relationships have their difficulties. Remember only the lessons learnt and forget the details. Weather the stormy moments, and savour the memory of sunny days. Remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. What attracted you to each other? What do you admire about your partner’s personality?

6. Have fun dating your partner regularly.
At this special date, putting each other first helps a lot. It will water your relationship like a plant, so it can grow.